Dearest Readers,
Today is the very last day of 2009. Hard to believe we've just come to the end of the first decade of the 2000s, isn't it? Ten whole years since the big Y2K scare. Blink and a decade has gone by.
This is a time to reflect not only on the year gone by but perhaps on the last ten years as well. What are my accomplishments? My wins and victories? What have I changed? What haven't I changed? Where would I like to change?
As I look to the New Year, I envision a continuation of my journey on the healing path, cultivating the courage to do the things I think I cannot do, walking through my fear, and inspiring others to do the same.
My deepest vision is to live entirely without fear. To be completely fearless. Sounds like a plan, no?
The other day I was in a store that sells outdoor gear and like almost everywhere you go now there was a television on display. The film that was playing showed images of a skier bombing down the steepest mountain side you can possibly imagine, flying off cliffs hundreds of feet high and landing in deep powder, continuing on to the next edge of nothingness, jumping off without hesitation etc.
Another clip showed a man running up to the edge of a mountain and hurling himself off it, flipping into the air and falling at breakneck speed, parallel to a sheer rock face until, very near to the ground, he pulled a chute and floated the rest of the way down.
My heart was in my throat.
Now, who knows what kinds of lives these guys have outside of their extreme sporting habits but to be that fearless in those situations, to see the edge of the cliff with nothing beyond it but certain death and to throw oneself off of it without a second thought, well, I'm impressed by that. Whether it's stupid or not, I don't know. I just know I'm in awe of that level of fearlessness. Because I'd be terrified.
I can't see myself throwing myself off a cliff anytime soon (though I've always dreamt of free-falling from an airplane -- I have jumped out of a plane but the chute released automatically upon jumping -- that's another story) but I plan to use those images of cliff-jumpers to inspire fearlessness in everyday situations.
Can I commit to throwing myself off the cliff of life each day? Am I willing to jump into the unknown with complete abandon? Can I practice letting go absolutely in any given situation?
Yes, yes, and yes.
Inspiring Message of the Day: I will look back on the past year and the past decade and look at what I have accomplished and what I would like to accomplish in the days to come. I will create a vision for my life and work toward it to the best of my ability, one day at a time.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Tree Hugs Back
Dearest Readers,
The term "tree hugger" is a put-down, most often meant to slam environmentalists. But have you ever actually hugged a tree? There's nothing shameful about it.
Last night as I was checking on an out-of-town friend's house I noticed a grove of trees in the backyard. It's not like I've never noticed these particular trees before but for some reason they drew my attention as I locked the door after giving the place a once-over.
The Yukon's most common trees are evergreens - spruce, pine & fir - but we've got loads of birch, poplar, willow, cotton wood and aspen trees, too. When you fly here, what you see out the window are mountains and trees. And trees. And more trees.
The trees in my friend's yard, the ones that called to me last evening, are aspen and they are massive, perhaps 100 feet tall. There are five or six of them and they're clustered together in a group. They've always looked to me like a gang of best friends, standing close and sticking together come what may.
In summer they are magnificent, shining white trunks and full heads of bright green leaves. In winter, well, since the backyard is not a big gathering place in the cold and dark months I'd never even looked at them in winter.
But last night, something drew me to them and I noticed for the first time that one of the trees stands alone from the others. It is the biggest tree of them all, its body just that much thicker than its nearby mates. This big baby was dying for a hug, I could tell.
Crunching through the snow I made my way over to greet the tree, it's tight bark covered in a frosty glaze. I wrapped my arms around it and held it close. The trunk was the perfect size for hugging, not to skinny, not too wide. It's body was firm, straight and strong, and yet it yielded to my touch.
I could actually feel the power of the tree's energy. Talk about a force of nature! That Force was like, pulsing into my body. I walked away feeling like I'd just downed a shot of Pure Love.
So I am a tree hugger in the most literal sense of the word. Unashamed and the better for it.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Hug a tree. There's great power there. Besides that, they like it.
The term "tree hugger" is a put-down, most often meant to slam environmentalists. But have you ever actually hugged a tree? There's nothing shameful about it.
Last night as I was checking on an out-of-town friend's house I noticed a grove of trees in the backyard. It's not like I've never noticed these particular trees before but for some reason they drew my attention as I locked the door after giving the place a once-over.
The Yukon's most common trees are evergreens - spruce, pine & fir - but we've got loads of birch, poplar, willow, cotton wood and aspen trees, too. When you fly here, what you see out the window are mountains and trees. And trees. And more trees.
The trees in my friend's yard, the ones that called to me last evening, are aspen and they are massive, perhaps 100 feet tall. There are five or six of them and they're clustered together in a group. They've always looked to me like a gang of best friends, standing close and sticking together come what may.
In summer they are magnificent, shining white trunks and full heads of bright green leaves. In winter, well, since the backyard is not a big gathering place in the cold and dark months I'd never even looked at them in winter.
But last night, something drew me to them and I noticed for the first time that one of the trees stands alone from the others. It is the biggest tree of them all, its body just that much thicker than its nearby mates. This big baby was dying for a hug, I could tell.
Crunching through the snow I made my way over to greet the tree, it's tight bark covered in a frosty glaze. I wrapped my arms around it and held it close. The trunk was the perfect size for hugging, not to skinny, not too wide. It's body was firm, straight and strong, and yet it yielded to my touch.
I could actually feel the power of the tree's energy. Talk about a force of nature! That Force was like, pulsing into my body. I walked away feeling like I'd just downed a shot of Pure Love.
So I am a tree hugger in the most literal sense of the word. Unashamed and the better for it.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Hug a tree. There's great power there. Besides that, they like it.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Practice Makes Perfect
Dearest Readers,
If you happen to be a perfectionist (recovering) like I am, you'll agree that one of the most difficult challenges we face is looking at what we did well in any given situation rather than what we didn't.
A perfectionist can perform an act, for example, that 9 people praise and 1 person criticizes. Guess what we decide to focus on or even obsess about? The criticism.
It has taken me a long time, and it's still an ongoing process, to switch my focus to what I am doing well rather than pick at my mistakes. Some time ago, I began the practice of positive self-talk in order to counter the negative voices and it has turned out to be a tool that works well, bringing me great results.
A friend of mine recently taught a class during which she made a couple of "mistakes" and she later emailed me to talk it over (I had been in the class). She was clearly feeling badly about it and even went so far as to call it a "gong show".
After the class, however, I and another gal had talked about what a great time we'd had and what a good teacher my friend is. We didn't mention the "mistakes". We weren't even thinking about them!
Of course, the so-called mistakes weren't our own, but herein lies another tool to help us to let go of self-punishment: no one else is thinking about your mistakes. Why should you?
My suggestion to my friend was that she tell herself outloud how well she did, that she go so far as to reach up her hand and give herself an actual pat on the back, all the while saying, "You did really well. Good for you!"
This little trick has big repercussions. It grows our self-esteem and builds our confidence.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Today I will focus on what a good job I am doing. I will look at my accomplishments, however small, give myself a pat on the back and tell myself how well I'm doing.
If you happen to be a perfectionist (recovering) like I am, you'll agree that one of the most difficult challenges we face is looking at what we did well in any given situation rather than what we didn't.
A perfectionist can perform an act, for example, that 9 people praise and 1 person criticizes. Guess what we decide to focus on or even obsess about? The criticism.
It has taken me a long time, and it's still an ongoing process, to switch my focus to what I am doing well rather than pick at my mistakes. Some time ago, I began the practice of positive self-talk in order to counter the negative voices and it has turned out to be a tool that works well, bringing me great results.
A friend of mine recently taught a class during which she made a couple of "mistakes" and she later emailed me to talk it over (I had been in the class). She was clearly feeling badly about it and even went so far as to call it a "gong show".
After the class, however, I and another gal had talked about what a great time we'd had and what a good teacher my friend is. We didn't mention the "mistakes". We weren't even thinking about them!
Of course, the so-called mistakes weren't our own, but herein lies another tool to help us to let go of self-punishment: no one else is thinking about your mistakes. Why should you?
My suggestion to my friend was that she tell herself outloud how well she did, that she go so far as to reach up her hand and give herself an actual pat on the back, all the while saying, "You did really well. Good for you!"
This little trick has big repercussions. It grows our self-esteem and builds our confidence.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Today I will focus on what a good job I am doing. I will look at my accomplishments, however small, give myself a pat on the back and tell myself how well I'm doing.
Monday, December 28, 2009
Running Up That Hill
Dearest Readers,
Listening to other people talk about their dreams can be fascinating but it's usually not. Our dreams are meaningful to us as individuals, not to others.
Unless it's a universal dream that most of us can relate to (like being naked in public or losing teeth) then you can probably count on your listener tuning out when you're in the midst of describing how you were in your childhood home but it looked like your friend's house etc.
That said, I'm going to share a piece of a dream with you because I feel the larger message is worth passing on.
I am running up a hill and it's getting steeper and steeper. It becomes so steep that I fear I might actually fall backward. I discover a wall jutting out and I lean against it for safety.
The top of the hill is just a few feet away but it's straight up. I notice little grooves in the ground, footholds, opposite the wall. I reach out my foot, press into the foothold. It's too high, the stretch is beyond my capability. I choose another foothold lower down, press my other foot against the wall behind me and push and pull myself up to the top.
Upon waking, I was struck by the obviousness of the dream's meaning: Sometimes life can feel like an uphill climb. The steeper it gets or the more challenges we face, the harder it is to keep going. Falling seems inevitable.
But there are walls and grooves and footholds all around us. We may be tempted to push ourselves higher and harder because we want to "get there" faster but we can choose the easier step. It's okay to be where we are.
In order to use life's footholds, we need to see them first. How do we see them? We need to trust that they are there. If we can do that, they will appear to us where we did not see them before.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Today I will trust that there are support systems in place to help me climb my hill. I will keep my eyes open and allow them to be revealed to me. Then I will use them to pull myself up!
Listening to other people talk about their dreams can be fascinating but it's usually not. Our dreams are meaningful to us as individuals, not to others.
Unless it's a universal dream that most of us can relate to (like being naked in public or losing teeth) then you can probably count on your listener tuning out when you're in the midst of describing how you were in your childhood home but it looked like your friend's house etc.
That said, I'm going to share a piece of a dream with you because I feel the larger message is worth passing on.
I am running up a hill and it's getting steeper and steeper. It becomes so steep that I fear I might actually fall backward. I discover a wall jutting out and I lean against it for safety.
The top of the hill is just a few feet away but it's straight up. I notice little grooves in the ground, footholds, opposite the wall. I reach out my foot, press into the foothold. It's too high, the stretch is beyond my capability. I choose another foothold lower down, press my other foot against the wall behind me and push and pull myself up to the top.
Upon waking, I was struck by the obviousness of the dream's meaning: Sometimes life can feel like an uphill climb. The steeper it gets or the more challenges we face, the harder it is to keep going. Falling seems inevitable.
But there are walls and grooves and footholds all around us. We may be tempted to push ourselves higher and harder because we want to "get there" faster but we can choose the easier step. It's okay to be where we are.
In order to use life's footholds, we need to see them first. How do we see them? We need to trust that they are there. If we can do that, they will appear to us where we did not see them before.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Today I will trust that there are support systems in place to help me climb my hill. I will keep my eyes open and allow them to be revealed to me. Then I will use them to pull myself up!
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Metaphysical Musings
Dearest Readers,
Sometimes I get a certain feeling around this holiday time of year that could only be described as dread. It's the coming of the New Year that brings it on, knowing a new beginning is approaching. The old, fearful part of me wants to hang back, put it off, hold it at bay. Call it the fear of moving forward.
The Bible has never really spoken to me in the way that it has for some people but there are some writers that I like who use Biblical references as metaphors, which is a practice that both intrigues and interests me.
Take, for instance, Florence Scovel Shinn. I've blogged about her before because I have one of her books, "The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn," which was given to me by a good friend, a fellow on the healing path, and I read it often for inspiration.
Shinn was all about metaphysics, which, according to Wikipedia is "a branch of philosophy that investigates principles of reality transcending those of any particular science." Shinn's books are full of affirmations like, "I forgive everyone and everyone forgives me. The gates swing open for my good."
I think of metaphysics as a kind of spiritual science. God as mathematical formula:
Surrender + Faith = PEACE
This morning, I was reading a passage wherein Shinn uses the story of Moses and the parting of the Red Sea as metaphor. Allow me to paraphrase: Moses is your Intuition or Higher Guidance and you are the Israelite being led out of Egypt (the darkness). Higher Guidance removes your fear or obstacle (parts the Red Sea), allowing you to pass into your own personal Promised Land, or freedom from fear.
"Go forward," Shinn writes. "Say to yourself, "Go forward.""
I need these words when I feel that fear of moving ahead come upon me, when anxiety attacks and dread hits. Instead of retreating, holding back, putting it off, I say to myself, "Go forward", and I put my trust in Guidance, knowing it will lead me to that place of inner peace, which I crave.
Inspiring Message of the Day: I will Go Forward despite my fear. I will trust Guidance and let go of my temptation to retreat or go backward.
Sometimes I get a certain feeling around this holiday time of year that could only be described as dread. It's the coming of the New Year that brings it on, knowing a new beginning is approaching. The old, fearful part of me wants to hang back, put it off, hold it at bay. Call it the fear of moving forward.
The Bible has never really spoken to me in the way that it has for some people but there are some writers that I like who use Biblical references as metaphors, which is a practice that both intrigues and interests me.
Take, for instance, Florence Scovel Shinn. I've blogged about her before because I have one of her books, "The Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn," which was given to me by a good friend, a fellow on the healing path, and I read it often for inspiration.
Shinn was all about metaphysics, which, according to Wikipedia is "a branch of philosophy that investigates principles of reality transcending those of any particular science." Shinn's books are full of affirmations like, "I forgive everyone and everyone forgives me. The gates swing open for my good."
I think of metaphysics as a kind of spiritual science. God as mathematical formula:
Surrender + Faith = PEACE
This morning, I was reading a passage wherein Shinn uses the story of Moses and the parting of the Red Sea as metaphor. Allow me to paraphrase: Moses is your Intuition or Higher Guidance and you are the Israelite being led out of Egypt (the darkness). Higher Guidance removes your fear or obstacle (parts the Red Sea), allowing you to pass into your own personal Promised Land, or freedom from fear.
"Go forward," Shinn writes. "Say to yourself, "Go forward.""
I need these words when I feel that fear of moving ahead come upon me, when anxiety attacks and dread hits. Instead of retreating, holding back, putting it off, I say to myself, "Go forward", and I put my trust in Guidance, knowing it will lead me to that place of inner peace, which I crave.
Inspiring Message of the Day: I will Go Forward despite my fear. I will trust Guidance and let go of my temptation to retreat or go backward.
Thursday, December 24, 2009
That Warm Love
"And it's ever-present everywhere, that warm love."
These are the words of Van Morrison, Dearest Readers, and as they blared from the car speakers today I looked at the world around me and saw it was so.
I saw a jam-packed parking lot, shoppers to-ing and fro-ing, ravens puffing up their feathers against the cold, homeless huddled together, children in Santa hats pulling parents into shops, lights lights and more lights, friends stopping to say hello, parcels and packages being carried like babes in arms, and a world alive and singing with energy.
That Energy is Love. It's ever-present, it's everywhere and it is, most assuredly, Warm.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Wherever you are, whoever you are, however you are feeling, that Warm Love is within you. It's yours. You deserve to give it and receive it, no matter what you've done, no matter what's been done to you, that Warm Love is yours, by birthright.
These are the words of Van Morrison, Dearest Readers, and as they blared from the car speakers today I looked at the world around me and saw it was so.
I saw a jam-packed parking lot, shoppers to-ing and fro-ing, ravens puffing up their feathers against the cold, homeless huddled together, children in Santa hats pulling parents into shops, lights lights and more lights, friends stopping to say hello, parcels and packages being carried like babes in arms, and a world alive and singing with energy.
That Energy is Love. It's ever-present, it's everywhere and it is, most assuredly, Warm.
Inspiring Message of the Day: Wherever you are, whoever you are, however you are feeling, that Warm Love is within you. It's yours. You deserve to give it and receive it, no matter what you've done, no matter what's been done to you, that Warm Love is yours, by birthright.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Approval-rating
Yesterday I had to do something really challenging. I had to tell a gal I was planning on working with that I'd changed my mind.
What's so difficult about that? Well, she's a friend and I respect and admire her quite a lot. And the thing I'd changed my mind about was working with her.
Having to do this triggered some of my deepest fears. I didn't want to disappoint her and I didn't want her to think ill of me.
For most of my life, I've been controlled by these fears. The decisions I made were motivated by my desire to be liked, my need for approval. When I began to change this behaviour and be changed by following intuition and Guidance, I began to experience freedom from fear and anxiety and my life got a whole lot better.
But the fear comes back. It's an Old Belief System (Old BS) and it's deep-rooted. I inherited it, like an ugly heirloom. You can't give it away.
Or can you?
When I teach yoga and we are at the end of a class, lying on our sides after the final relaxation, I often say, "Let any residue of fatigue or tension slide out of you. Give it to the ground. The ground can take it."
Think of the ground, it's many layers, it's unfathomable depth. Think of the whole Universe, it's inestimable size. The Life Force of Everything. What if we could give our fear to this Power? It's certainly big enough to take it.
So this is my prayer: Take my fear. Take my need for approval. Take my desire to be liked.
I am giving away the ugly heirloom I inherited. I am giving it to the Ground (of Being).
And guess what? It works.
One word (or two) of caution: When we pray to have the need for approval removed, we're given opportunities to practice living free from that very need.
For example, I had to tell my gal friend that I'd be working with someone else. The idea made me want to vomit but I trusted my intuition, asked for help and told her. She was great about it, by the way. And my fear was gone.
Inspiring Message of the Day: I will trust that the Universe is big enough to hold my fear. I will ask for the fear to be removed and then accept the opportunities that come my way to remove it.
What's so difficult about that? Well, she's a friend and I respect and admire her quite a lot. And the thing I'd changed my mind about was working with her.
Having to do this triggered some of my deepest fears. I didn't want to disappoint her and I didn't want her to think ill of me.
For most of my life, I've been controlled by these fears. The decisions I made were motivated by my desire to be liked, my need for approval. When I began to change this behaviour and be changed by following intuition and Guidance, I began to experience freedom from fear and anxiety and my life got a whole lot better.
But the fear comes back. It's an Old Belief System (Old BS) and it's deep-rooted. I inherited it, like an ugly heirloom. You can't give it away.
Or can you?
When I teach yoga and we are at the end of a class, lying on our sides after the final relaxation, I often say, "Let any residue of fatigue or tension slide out of you. Give it to the ground. The ground can take it."
Think of the ground, it's many layers, it's unfathomable depth. Think of the whole Universe, it's inestimable size. The Life Force of Everything. What if we could give our fear to this Power? It's certainly big enough to take it.
So this is my prayer: Take my fear. Take my need for approval. Take my desire to be liked.
I am giving away the ugly heirloom I inherited. I am giving it to the Ground (of Being).
And guess what? It works.
One word (or two) of caution: When we pray to have the need for approval removed, we're given opportunities to practice living free from that very need.
For example, I had to tell my gal friend that I'd be working with someone else. The idea made me want to vomit but I trusted my intuition, asked for help and told her. She was great about it, by the way. And my fear was gone.
Inspiring Message of the Day: I will trust that the Universe is big enough to hold my fear. I will ask for the fear to be removed and then accept the opportunities that come my way to remove it.
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