Free and Easy

Dearest Readers,

How spontaneous are you? Can you change your plans in a heartbeat? Do something wild and daring at the drop of a hat? Make a decision on the fly without knowing whether it's really the right thing to do? If so, I admire your spontaneity.

The dictionary on this computer describes "spontaneous" as "having an open, natural, and uninhibited manner." It also says that spontaneity "occurs as a result of a sudden inner impulse without premeditation."

Although I like to think I have an open, natural and uninhibited manner the reality is I have a pretty regimented schedule, which contrary to the way it sounds, brings me maximum wellness. I need to be vigilant with my time in order for my spiritual and emotional health to remain in alignment.

What this means is that I'm not the most spontaneous gal on the block. When I run into someone on the street and they say, "How about going for a coffee?" my answer is usually, "Can't right now. Email me and we'll set something up." Scheduling ahead of time is the best I can do. And it works.

Most of the time. Because vigilance has its downside. When vigilance becomes rigidity we're in control-issue territory and its probably best to mix it up a little. Throw caution to the wind and break free. Let go and let spontaneity in. Take a walk on the wild side.

Yesterday a friend asked me to go for coffee with her. She had just given me a lift to the bank and suggested we go to the cafe across the street and catch up. It had been a while since we'd spent any time together, the sun was shining and it seemed like the perfect opportunity to hang out.

Internally, my first response was, "Oh no, I can't." But then I realized that, in fact, I could. There was nothing I had to do that couldn't wait. The only thing stopping me was... fear.

Fear of what? Oh, I don't know. Changing my schedule. Fear of socializing or being seen. Fear of lattes. Whatever! Fear is illogical and ridiculous. It doesn't make any sense. But it keeps us from living a full life and it will make our decisions for us if we let it.

So I said "yes". Pretty wild, I know. But I could think of no good reason to say "no" other than it felt more comfortable than saying yes. So I did the uncomfortable thing. I changed my plans in the moment. I acted spontaneously!

My friend and I ended up having a really good conversation. I think we were both able to process a number of things going on in our respective lives. And it was fun! I know, fun, what a concept.

At the end of our time together I thanked my friend for asking me to join her. She thanked me for being spontaneous. Open, natural, uninhibited. That's me. On a good day.

Inspiring Message of the Day: I will practice doing the thing that takes me out of my comfort zone. Today I will respond with spontaneity to something new that comes my way.