Have you ever been in a situation where you worked on something for a long time on your own and when other people came on board as collaborators you found yourself getting irritable, anxious and impatient when the project went differently than you expected?
As an artist heavily involved in collaborative forms such as theatre and film I've experienced this scenario many times. I have an idea and I become attached to it. When other artists change (or do not adhere to) said idea, fear rises to the surface.
What is the fear about? Depending on the situation, it might be about being wrong, or about having to let go of something I've worked so hard on. It could also be the fear of what other people will think of the end result, or fear of failure.
I've learned that if I'm getting irritable then one of these fears is very likely being triggered. It is also highly probable that my expectations are not being met. Things are not going the way I had designed them in my head.
All these fears are ego-related and when my ego is at stake, I'm spinning the planet. And when I'm spinning the planet I'm in trouble. Don't have the power, not my job.
The best tools I know of to use in situations like this are having faith and letting go of expectations. One is about trust and the other is about surrender. Neither is easy to do. Both bring peace.
Inspiring Message of the Day: When I get irritable I will ask myself which fear is being triggered. I will then practice trusting that everything is unfolding exactly as it should. I will let myself be carried by the Flow.